I got tagged by Suruchi.. so I shall do this, and try to be as honest as I can.
As per the tag,you have to write the first thing that comes to your mind when you read first two words!
I AM: a Bitch
I WANT: Everything
I HAVE: Nothing
I WISH: To be alone at times
I HATE: Being tied down
I FEAR: Losing
I SEARCH: Peace
I WONDER: Main aisi kyu hun?
I REGRET: Nothing
I LOVE: Myself
I ALWAYS: Eat, drink and be merry
I AM NOT: Nice
I DANCE: Often
I SING: More often
I CRY: Rarely
I WRITE: to vent
I WON: No, I lost
I AM CONFUSED: Yes I am
I NEED: Peace and clarity
I SHOULD: lose some weight
THE LAST THOUGHT I GO TO SLEEP WITH IS: Hopefully tomorrow will be different!
Monday, May 26, 2008
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Women on Top!
No, this post isn't about the "women on top" position.....
This is about the "women on top positions"... actually on why most women don't make it to the top positions in their career!!!
1. When the guy gets promoted, he is promised gifts back home (as a token of appreciation and happiness). When a woman gets promoted, she is asked, "So more work, huh? (lesser time at home)!
2. When a guy is globe trotting, it is a matter of pride for the family. When a woman is globe trotting, she isn't paying much attention at home, and has her priorities messed up!
3. When a guys gets a raise, it's celebration time. When a woman gets a raise, it just means she is money-minded!
4. A guy never has to worry about calling the maid during office hours, to find a replacement when the maid is on a vacation!
5. A guy almost never has to tell his boss, that he can't attend the evening meeting coz the maid hasn't come in to cook today!
6. When a guy comes in late to office cos he had to take his family somewhere, people think, "how cute, he is a true family man". When a womam comes in late, it's, "Oh again? All well?"
7. You never have anyone asking a guy, "Why do you have to work, when your spouse earns enough?"
8. You don't have 10,000 people telling a guy how his family should always be a priority!
9. When you tell a guy "Man, you are lucky to have a wife who accomodates your hectic work life", it is supposed to be appreciative. When you tell a woman, how lucky she is to have a husband who accomodates, it is meant to be derogatory (almost always implying that the woman should work on setting it straight!)
10. A man can carry the work tensions home, coz after all behind every successful man, there's a woman. When a woman carries work tensions home, she is upsetting the home environment! Am yet to hear about a man behind the successful woman!
This is about the "women on top positions"... actually on why most women don't make it to the top positions in their career!!!
1. When the guy gets promoted, he is promised gifts back home (as a token of appreciation and happiness). When a woman gets promoted, she is asked, "So more work, huh? (lesser time at home)!
2. When a guy is globe trotting, it is a matter of pride for the family. When a woman is globe trotting, she isn't paying much attention at home, and has her priorities messed up!
3. When a guys gets a raise, it's celebration time. When a woman gets a raise, it just means she is money-minded!
4. A guy never has to worry about calling the maid during office hours, to find a replacement when the maid is on a vacation!
5. A guy almost never has to tell his boss, that he can't attend the evening meeting coz the maid hasn't come in to cook today!
6. When a guy comes in late to office cos he had to take his family somewhere, people think, "how cute, he is a true family man". When a womam comes in late, it's, "Oh again? All well?"
7. You never have anyone asking a guy, "Why do you have to work, when your spouse earns enough?"
8. You don't have 10,000 people telling a guy how his family should always be a priority!
9. When you tell a guy "Man, you are lucky to have a wife who accomodates your hectic work life", it is supposed to be appreciative. When you tell a woman, how lucky she is to have a husband who accomodates, it is meant to be derogatory (almost always implying that the woman should work on setting it straight!)
10. A man can carry the work tensions home, coz after all behind every successful man, there's a woman. When a woman carries work tensions home, she is upsetting the home environment! Am yet to hear about a man behind the successful woman!
Wednesday, May 07, 2008
Man or woman?
The title is a question I have on my mind lately. It is also a question that many have asked me at different occasions and times. I hadn’t given much thought to it, but now I guess it’s high time.
I clearly remember being a tom boy when I was a kid; it didn’t seem to be so bad after all – not until now. Mom was worried about it, but Dad never cared. He always told me – Tu to Sher ka baccha hai!!! (Back then I missed to notice the use of bachha instead of bacchi). I would beat up boys and return home victorious, only to be beaten up by Mom. The beating was most often followed by an argument between my parents which always ended with Mom’s tear filled kya hoga iska, ye aisi kyu hai? and Dad’s arrogant kyuki wo meri beti hai!
When I went to college, I knew I wasn’t like the other girls. Not that I didn’t want to be; but probably I just didn’t care about it then. While others were given titles like “Rose Queen” and “Miss Adaa”, the boys bestowed the “Coveted Cat Crown” on me for 4 years in a row!!! Needless to say, there were only a rare few who had the balls to come up to me to talk and most of them never returned. So in short, I never had guys running after me like other girls did.
At my 1st job 7 years ago, my boss happened to say that he needed more men like me in the team. I thought of it as a compliment back then. But thinking about it now – more men like me???? Excuse me???!!!!
I didn’t think much about all this, until recently. The last 4 months have been funny. I have had subtle comments like “Shut up man” to more direct ones “you think you are a girl, huh?”
The last nail in the coffin was when I had to ask someone out for dinner (this is the same someone whom I have asked for dinner earlier and he has refused; ref Expert comments, please). I asked him, “The lady wishes to take you out for dinner, if your schedule permits” and he turned around with a grin, “Lady, huh? Where is the lady?”
I wasn’t yet over this shock, when my (current) boss told me, “You are one of the few men I have in the team!” And then there are those occasional – No actually its frequent – we don’t count you in the girls’ clan!
Now, I am thinking (seriously thinking) if something is genuinely wrong somewhere!! What is it that makes me a man? And is this supposed to be derogatory? Given that it has always been men who think I was a man, does this mean that they relate to me as one of their own; or does this mean that when they look at me, they don’t get the “nice” feeling, that they usually get when they look at a woman!.
I mean I KNOW for sure that I DON’T LOOK LIKE A MAN! Maybe I behave like one *rolling eyes*
But then how do men behave? hmm.. ok.. they letch at women... Do I letch at women? No I am certain that I don’t. Then what is it that I do, that makes me a man?
Ok, I accept that I eat people alive, but not all men that I know do that. Does that make them a woman? If not, then, why me?
HELP!!!!!
I clearly remember being a tom boy when I was a kid; it didn’t seem to be so bad after all – not until now. Mom was worried about it, but Dad never cared. He always told me – Tu to Sher ka baccha hai!!! (Back then I missed to notice the use of bachha instead of bacchi). I would beat up boys and return home victorious, only to be beaten up by Mom. The beating was most often followed by an argument between my parents which always ended with Mom’s tear filled kya hoga iska, ye aisi kyu hai? and Dad’s arrogant kyuki wo meri beti hai!
When I went to college, I knew I wasn’t like the other girls. Not that I didn’t want to be; but probably I just didn’t care about it then. While others were given titles like “Rose Queen” and “Miss Adaa”, the boys bestowed the “Coveted Cat Crown” on me for 4 years in a row!!! Needless to say, there were only a rare few who had the balls to come up to me to talk and most of them never returned. So in short, I never had guys running after me like other girls did.
At my 1st job 7 years ago, my boss happened to say that he needed more men like me in the team. I thought of it as a compliment back then. But thinking about it now – more men like me???? Excuse me???!!!!
I didn’t think much about all this, until recently. The last 4 months have been funny. I have had subtle comments like “Shut up man” to more direct ones “you think you are a girl, huh?”
The last nail in the coffin was when I had to ask someone out for dinner (this is the same someone whom I have asked for dinner earlier and he has refused; ref Expert comments, please). I asked him, “The lady wishes to take you out for dinner, if your schedule permits” and he turned around with a grin, “Lady, huh? Where is the lady?”
I wasn’t yet over this shock, when my (current) boss told me, “You are one of the few men I have in the team!” And then there are those occasional – No actually its frequent – we don’t count you in the girls’ clan!
Now, I am thinking (seriously thinking) if something is genuinely wrong somewhere!! What is it that makes me a man? And is this supposed to be derogatory? Given that it has always been men who think I was a man, does this mean that they relate to me as one of their own; or does this mean that when they look at me, they don’t get the “nice” feeling, that they usually get when they look at a woman!.
I mean I KNOW for sure that I DON’T LOOK LIKE A MAN! Maybe I behave like one *rolling eyes*
But then how do men behave? hmm.. ok.. they letch at women... Do I letch at women? No I am certain that I don’t. Then what is it that I do, that makes me a man?
Ok, I accept that I eat people alive, but not all men that I know do that. Does that make them a woman? If not, then, why me?
HELP!!!!!
Friday, May 02, 2008
I am back!
Like I had promised.. I am back...
It feels nice to be back in the good old, oh-so-crowded, the-traffic-sucks Mumbai!! This is the place to be.
It feels nice to see the smile the flashes across faces, when you walk into the office after a 2 month break!
It feels nice when people say, Oh shit she is back!
It feels nice to scream at your cook, coz she put dhaniya in the food (damn her, I have been away less than 2 months, and she already forgot my food preferences!!)
It feels lovely to be able to stand on a road side thela and have gol gappas
It feels nice to be back with a difference and a different person. To know that you have a life.. and you can actually live it. To realize that the you in you is still alive somewhere!
It feels nice to be back and in control!!!!!
It feels nice to be back in the good old, oh-so-crowded, the-traffic-sucks Mumbai!! This is the place to be.
It feels nice to see the smile the flashes across faces, when you walk into the office after a 2 month break!
It feels nice when people say, Oh shit she is back!
It feels nice to scream at your cook, coz she put dhaniya in the food (damn her, I have been away less than 2 months, and she already forgot my food preferences!!)
It feels lovely to be able to stand on a road side thela and have gol gappas
It feels nice to be back with a difference and a different person. To know that you have a life.. and you can actually live it. To realize that the you in you is still alive somewhere!
It feels nice to be back and in control!!!!!
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